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Narcissism in Relationships: Understanding the Message in "Narcissist" by Avery Anna


Have you ever heard a song that hits you as if it was written just for you? The kind of song that resonates in your soul and feels like it was plucked straight from your heart? This is how many people feel when they hear "Narcissist" by Avery Anna. The lyrics detail a tumultuous relationship with a narcissistic partner, one who is self-centered and incapable of empathy. If you've ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you know how difficult it can be. In this blog post, we'll examine the lyrics of "Narcissist," and explore what they can teach us about narcissism in relationships.


The song opens with "Out of touch with my feelings, I can't help it if I'm happy or sad." This immediately sets the tone of confusion and emotional distress. Narcissistic partners often gaslight their partners, leading them to doubt their own emotions and instincts. They may undermine their partner's self-confidence, leaving them feeling adrift and uncertain. This line of the song speaks to the overwhelming feeling of losing touch with oneself in a relationship with a narcissist.


The chorus of the song is particularly poignant: "You say that I'm crazy, You say that you're sorry, Won't happen again, You say I'm dramatic, I'm overreacting, And maybe I am." In relationships with narcissists, partners are often told that their emotions are overblown and that they are overreacting to minor incidents. This minimizes the partner's feelings and creates a power dynamic in which the narcissist holds all the control. Narcissists often manipulate their partners by making them feel they are "crazy," and this line captures that dynamic perfectly.


Later on, the song touches on the impact that a narcissistic partner can have on other relationships: "My parents don't like you, Why would they want to? After they found me crying on the bathroom floor." Narcissistic partners often isolate their partners, driving a wedge between them and their friends and family. This is because the narcissist wants their partner to be entirely dependent on them. The line "I don't even like me anymore" speaks to the damage that a narcissistic partner can do to their partner's self-esteem.


In the bridge of the song, Avery Anna sings, "You lose your voice when you yell too much, Don't say you love me until you mess up, Phone calls past twelve o'clock, wanting me back." This is another common feature of relationships with narcissists: they often oscillate between treating their partner abusively and then begging for forgiveness. This can be incredibly confusing for the partner, who may forgive the narcissist time and time again, only to be hurt again in the future.


"Narcissist" by Avery Anna is a powerful song that captures the experience of being in a relationship with a narcissist. If you have ever been in a relationship with a narcissistic partner, the lyrics of the song may hit close to home. Understanding the dynamics of narcissism in relationships can help you identify toxic patterns and seek help. Remember, you can only control your own behavior. If your partner is unwilling to change their behavior, it may be time to consider ending the relationship. Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist to help you through this process. You deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship.



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